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No penetration, no sex

Machismo sneaks up in the way we make love. From the start, many times, I hear man makes love to women .

And the woman, meanwhile, what? Do you look the roof? Do you receive passively?

This image of man active and passive woman , besides being totally wrong, how we mark the relations between men and women.

Accurate

I limit this entry to heterosexual relationships.

Why is lying in a sexual relationship the man is active and women passive? Well, first, because I do not see why they would be active and passive penetration would be welcome. In some societies, the woman is considered "down" male sex, which is she who has the active role and the male is the one that is passive (swallowed).

But above all, because it gives a completely phallocentrism (centered on the phallus) of the relationship, in which penetration would become the center of the goal, the focus of a sexual relationship .

In fact, do not talk about "preliminary ? The word "preliminary" means " That was a preamble or preface to treat a subject firmly." In other words, the preliminary preparation for the "art" of the relationship, ie penetration.

puts his penis in the center of the relationship, with a rarely seen hypocrisy: you come to think that if there is no penetration, no relationship. This is how Bill Clinton said as pancho not had sex with Monica Lewinsky, because it was "only" a fellatio.

So many people believe that it is cheating only from the time when there was vaginal penetration with the penis . If only there were words of love, games of seduction, kissing or touching although they were of a sexual nature, then is considered that there was no infidelity . On two occasions, I've learned that I had put the horns, but both were justified, saying: "Technically, nothing happened." Translation: "there was no penetration, meaning that I do not really cheating."

For me, it was infidelity. But even worse was hypocrisy.

I believe that loyalty has nothing to do with the penetration of the vagina by the penis. It may be cheating a thousand ways: with a dinner, with a kiss, a look, with an intention. It can have more privacy at a dinner in a bed.

I personally do not give any importance to sexual fidelity. Yes to honesty, loyalty. Nobody in their right mind can swear to be faithful to another person, because I think a thought and it is cheating. What we can is to be loyal, honest, transparent .

In fact, many people who put loyalty above everything ends up being unfaithful (usually care more about the loyalty of the other person than his own). Of course, hypocritically ensuring that "technically, nothing happened."

Turning to entry: of course people who believe that sex is summarized penetration can have a thousand stories to other people your partner, with perfectly clean conscience: I do not penetrated / was not penetrated, then I was faithful.

phallocentrism much! Da the idea that without a penis, no sex , no pleasure. Without that, no woman can enjoy . This is how, for a woman resentful, he recommends "a good fuck " as if the penis would cheer to get the bitterness, or calm. It gives the quasi-magical powers penis. And of course, means that two women not only have sex without a penis, but no penetration.

In the imaginary porn, a woman who masturbates is introduced all sorts of objects into the vagina or anus, all bigger one than the others, as a substitute penis, when in fact that the vast majority of women masturbate simply stroking the clitoris without even touching the vagina (*) .

the day that men and women (because it is ignorance on both sides, as almost always, and many women believe that without penetrating the relationship is incomplete) understand that we can enjoy without penetration also, not just sex be much more varied, fun, creative and joyful : also prevent men who have erectile problems or premature ejaculation a bad time, feel diminished, useless in bed and failures.

(*) remember that only 30% of women have orgasms with intercourse without external stimulation of the clitoris (must be "external" because the penetration, which is actually stimulates the inner clitoris, or even orgasms called "vaginal" orgasms are actually "clitoral" because the vagina is only sensitive in the first half) . All the males who have told that they answered, "Lie with me all enjoyed." Sorry to disappoint: it is very likely that many pretend that they were unable to realize. With how easy it is to fake an orgasm:

from 07/02 Edit: A reader of my blog, Geli sent a link to a Journal Note Ohlala! , called " unconsummated marriage: no sex when the couple ", in which wonderful things we learned:

- non-penetrative sex ... because as the title of this post, not sex

- even if orgasm is considered that there was no relationship "complete"

- the "no penetration" is a condition that must be solved by going to the doctor

- the "unconsummated marriage" (ie, non-penetration) should be considered a separate clinical entity.

A gem of phallocentrism.